Gratitude: Rhymes with Attitude
How appropriate that “attitude” and “gratitude” rhyme. Science is learning more about how our attitude affects our brains and the cells throughout our bodies. Our attitude can actually affect our health.
Here’s what Mitchell B. Liester, M.D., recently said in Psychology Today: Evidence demonstrates that memories can be encoded and stored in cells and that these memories can influence human behavior and cognition. This perspective aligns with what trauma therapists have long observed: the body keeps the score. Traumatic experiences leave imprints not just in the brain but throughout the physical body. When we practice gratitude, we’re not just changing our thoughts—we may be literally reprogramming our cells. *
One of the blessings we humans enjoy is we can choose to be agreeable or angry. Better or bitter. Contented or cranky. Can you add to that alphabet of opposites? (Someone helpfully said happy or sappy.)
Last year as I wrote Little Sister, A Family Memoir, I tried to find empathy and hope in stories that were sometimes tragic. It made a difference to write with that attitude—the work became a joyful experience rather than just a gloomy trip through the past. I hope the book leaves my nieces and nephews with stories they’re eager to share with coming generations.
We can choose whether to dwell on sad or bad things from the past, going over them in our minds, telling everyone who will listen, and refusing to let them go.
Or we can turn those memories over to God and let him begin to heal them. Then we can replace sad or bad memories with an attitude of gratitude and that helps our brains and bodies cope. If we start our mornings with thanksgiving in our hearts, it sets us on a positive path for the whole day. And as the minutes and hours tick by, those good memories are becoming embedded in our cells!
Recently in a Sunday sermon, Pastor Chad said: “Gratitude is a memory in motion.” To me that means making a point of remembering our blessings, praising God for them, and letting him deal with the rest.
One of the best ways to strengthen our good memories is to share them. As Thanksgiving draws near, what better time to tell them to family and friends?
But, most of all, we need to recall the answers to prayer that we’ve had and show our gratitude to the Lord. We can encourage others and ourselves by sharing them.
Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever. Oh, give thanks to the God of gods! For His mercy endures forever. Oh, give thanks to the Lord of lords! For His mercy endures forever. Psalm 136:1-3
* How Gratitude Heals From Within, Mitchell B. Liester, M.D., Psychology Today, 4/11/2025.
Writing Update
Dear readers, this blog post is a milestone—the 100th Prairie Lighthouse post! The first one went out in May of 2015. Thank you for a decade of support and encouragement!
This picture is of Larry and me at the Wilton Fall Frenzy on Nov. 1. It was a fun day and the last book signing planned for the year. If you know of an event for 2026, let me know.
You can order my books from Amazon, Barnes & Noble and other online bookstores, and at most booksellers in Bismarck. People tell me they make great Christmas gifts. (Hint, hint.)
Happy Thanksgiving!



I know all about good manners. I should have demurred and said we didn’t want one. But, I had been greedily waiting to taste that squash all summer. In the end, he brought a squash over and we invited him to dine with us when we cook it this fall. On the kitchen scale it weighed over six pounds.
The startling thought came to me unbidden as I gazed out the window last evening. The citrus-colored moon sat on a jagged mountain of a cloud. A leafy tree waved in the sultry dusky air. A hundred miles to the west, a storm gathered itself preparing to pour out sweet summer rain.
April 27: “I ordered 100 copies of “By the Banks of Cottonwood Creek”…They were to arrive next Wednesday, but arrived five days early. I called Pastor Dan and asked if I could set up a book table at church on Sunday, and he agreed.” The rest of journal entry told of the logistics of being an author. I was finding my way through a whole new world. (More Norwegian reserve.)
Today, ten years later, people still ask when the next book is coming out, and with all of the encouragement, I’ve published six books. What a blessing to have this encore career and the chance to publish stories that are dear to my heart.
This year our youngest grandson is graduating from high school. So, congratulations to him and all of the 2025 graduates. And my sympathy to all the parents and grandparents who feel melancholy right now. Try to remember that this isn’t the end, but a new beginning.
It reminds us of when our sons were in high school and college. They often hung out with their friends in our basement family room, with its outdated orange wallpaper. We gave up our social life to hang around upstairs just in case parent intervention was ever needed. Then, after years of this, one weekend we found ourselves home alone. The young people had all taken wing, like young birds flying away. We had an adjustment to make.
For centuries, time was measured with an hourglass. How it works is sand runs from an upper chamber to a lower chamber marking one hour. In Latin, an hourglass with wings means tempus fugit or time flies.
Every week, I hear from people who have read Little Sister. A few days ago, a friend told this charming story: “My sister who is 90 years old just told me that I absolutely had to go out and buy this book called Little Sister. I told her ‘I mailed that book to you’ and she said, ‘Oh I just love this book, it reminds me of so many things in LaMoure that I had forgotten about. I’m going to order one for my boys so they can see what my younger life was like.’”
Wow! Finishing Little Sister was monumental for me and it’s taking a while to shift gears and think about writing anything else.
Many thanks to all who have purchased Little Sister, A Family Memoir, since its publication last September. And a million thanks for who have sent comments. Many say they relate to the stories in it about growing up in the 1950s. You all warm my ink-stained heart.
As the holidays neared, some of my writing friends and I realized we had all published recently. We decided to celebrate with a Christmas Coffee at the Bismarck Public Library in December. We were excited and blessed to talk about our writing to a room full of people. Pictured here are five of the six recently published authors.
As I write this, we are well into the ho-ho-holiday season. Thanksgiving is a distant memory, although it was less than two weeks ago. On the horizon, a family birthday, an exciting author event, a series of parties, a wedding, a baby shower, and finally, the holiest twenty-four hours of the year, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. All of this is packed into the few weeks before we reach 2025.
Little Sister, A Family Memoir has been out for a couple months now. Thank you to all who promptly ordered copies! Since then, so many have phoned, emailed, messaged or sent notes. I can’t tell you how much your responses bless me.
ne of them made the delicious Little Sister shortbread cookies shown on this page. It was such a thoughtful gift, I may have to get a book cookie cutter and learn to make them.
And then there were the photos. After sifting through hundreds of old photos, I wanted to include each one. In the end, a mere sixty are in the book. Little Sister is my memoir and the Larson family history set in our hometown of LaMoure, N.D. But it is also about living in the Heartland, and could be anyone’s story.
I’m pleased to announce that my sixth book has been published.